Executive Coaching · Turning Point
Stay, step up, or step out.
Decide with your head, your body and your numbers.
For Directors and VPs who sense that the chapter they built is coming to an end, and cannot yet see the shape of the next one. In eight steps, with a former investment banker who takes your fears as seriously as your finances, you decide whether to stay, step up or step out, become sure of that decision, and take the first practical steps towards it.
Book your Turning Point callFormer Investment Banker · Adviser to High Net Worth Clients · ICF PCC · 3,000+ coaching sessions
Your point A
You have built something real.
It is a Sunday evening. Your CV is open on the laptop, and you scroll through everything you have achieved: the titles, the teams, the results. Then you close the tab, and Monday arrives as usual.
Your career is successful and your life looks good on paper. People rely on you, you are good at what you do, and nobody around you would guess that you feel unsettled, or that the slight nudge you keep noticing has started to feel like anxiety.
You are not in crisis. You are just not quite okay either.
One voice says
You have done your time here, or the time is approaching. It is like the end of winter, when you can smell spring in the air before a single leaf has appeared.
Another answers straight away
Be grateful, this is a good job, people would queue for it, and maybe things will look different in six months.
So the first voice goes back under the carpet, and the question it was asking stays with you.
Is this it?
It is the question that so often arrives once you have achieved what you set out to achieve. You hope the answer is no.
A push from outside
A restructuring, a colleague’s farewell post, or watching someone else get the promotion you had been working towards.
A pull from inside
Somewhere along the way you stopped asking what you actually want. You have mastered this role so thoroughly, carried along partly by inertia, that it has started to feel like exactly that, a role, and something in you is ready for a new kind of chapter.
For most, it is both. And because by any measure you are doing well, it can feel almost self indulgent to complain, so you say very little, sometimes not even to the people closest to you.
Underneath it all is one question:
What got you here
Why this one is harder.
You got here by being the one everyone could count on: your team, your company, your clients, and often your family. Sometimes it was also about never letting yourself down, living up to expectations of your own that are higher than anyone else’s.
That sense of responsibility is a large part of why you are where you are. It is also why this decision is harder than the bold calls you make every week, because this time the person it has to serve first is you.
None of this means the choices that brought you here were wrong. They were right for the chapter they built. Since then your inner standard has risen, and what comes next has to meet the standard you hold today.
And you are weighing all of this while still delivering at full speed, like redesigning the plane while it is in flight. Most people assume it is something to settle alone, over a glass of wine or a long weekend in a mountain hut. If that worked, it would have worked by now.
Five things get in the way
01
Everyone you would talk it through with has a stake in the answer.
Your partner, your parents, your manager, even your friends, and in a way yourself.
02
You carry the weight of other people’s expectations.
Your family’s security, and after years inside a particular status, it can be hard to imagine who you are without it.
03
Your default setting is trying to make this decision.
The good soldier who delivers without complaint and waits to be noticed.
04
Thinking happens in your head, while the fear lives in your body.
The decision comes almost within reach, then slips away by Monday morning. A decision this size only feels safe with a net underneath it: a clear why, a plan, and at least part of the how.
05
You cannot choose what you cannot picture.
After twenty years inside corporate life, you do not know what you do not know.
A default you have lived with for twenty years feels like who you are. It is the favourite T-shirt, worn thin long ago, that you still reach for because it became a kind of safety. Letting go becomes easy once you have found the one that fits you now, and feels even better.
The Turning Point helps you make a decision you will still be glad of in ten years, and begin a next chapter you feel excited about again.
Your point B
What comes with the decision.
- A question pushed under the carpet for months→A clear yes to your next move, and the first step already taken
- Living by a standard you have already outgrown→A next chapter that matches who you are becoming
- Depleted, going home with little left→Evenings and weekends that are yours again, with energy left for the people at home
- Fear and want so tangled you cannot tell which is which→A yes that makes sense in your head and feels right in your body
- Unsure what you are worth outside this company→Your value proposition and an elevator pitch, ready for a promotion talk, an interview or your first client
- Anxious about what a change would mean for you and your family→Your income, savings and timing mapped month by month, so everyone at home knows what the move means
Client voices
In their words.
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Within our work together I found and accepted a leadership role that truly aligns with my values.
Emilie Huckel
Digital Transformation and Process Improvement
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By the time my promotion came, it didn’t feel like a surprise. It was just the result of doing the work.
Giuseppe Tanzarella
ex Procter and Gamble
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The progress I valued most was not on the CV. It was the shift from overdelivering out of habit to leading with intention.
Marianna Bezler
Engineering, OpenAI
What the in-between costs
Some things refuse to be rushed.
A decision about the next ten years of your career is one of them. You will live with it for a long time. Taking your time is wise.
Staying half in and half out for years is something else, and it is rarely free.
Cost 01
The promotion that goes to someone else.
When you are half in, it shows, and you risk not being the name put forward in the leadership meeting where the promotion or the salary increase is decided.
Cost 02
The value of the right move.
For one client, a package of €180K instead of €140K. For another, a promotion within six months and €75K more in total compensation. Every year in the wrong place is a year of that difference you do not get back.
Cost 03
The preparation the right move needs.
A strong next step is prepared long before it is taken: the network, the visibility, the savings, the conversations at home. Every month undecided is a month not spent preparing it.
Cost 04
The cost of a wrong move.
The same problems in a different building, or a business started before the foundations are ready, and then a year or more to recover.
Cost 05
A decision made on a bad day.
After months of overthinking, many people decide at the worst possible moment.
Cost 06
Your timing, and your energy.
If you do not decide, a reorganisation, a burnout or a manager eventually decides for you. Meanwhile the nudge you kept ignoring slowly turns into a low, burning anxiety.
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Her coaching has been key at crucial moments where I needed to gain clarity on positioning, effective delegation and preparing for more senior roles. Danguole’s approach is powerful as she mixes her corporate background, psychology and coaching.
Director, ex-KPMG
How it works
Eight steps, from ‘is this it?’ to your first move.
The eight steps work on three questions. Why you want what you want, in steps 1 to 3. What your next move is, in steps 4 and 5. How to make it well, in steps 6 to 8.
A good conversation helps you think out loud. Here, your numbers are mapped, your default is named, the decision is tested in your body as well as your head, and the conversation with your manager or your family is prepared before you have it.
Why · Steps 1 to 3
What · Steps 4 and 5
How · Steps 6 to 8
POINT A · ‘Is this it?’
POINT B · your new move, chosen and begun
Steps 1–3
Why
Why you want what you want
Your Blueprint.How you are built, what you are moving through now, and what this moment is asking of you.
Your default.The way of deciding that got you here, and why insight alone has not changed it.
What you want.Separating what you want from what was expected of you.
Steps 4–5
What
What your next move is
Three paths, mapped.What each path would mean: your days, your income month by month, your pension and investments.
The decision.Tested in mind and body, until you are sure.
Steps 6–8
How
How to make it well
The plan.What happens, in what order, and what support you need.
The first step, prepared.The conversation with your manager, the stakeholder meeting, or the first exploratory call.
The first step, taken.Debriefed together, so you hold your course when the old default returns.
Three paths, all equal
Stay, step up, or step out.
There is no right answer built into this work.
What my clients have in common is that they chose.
Stay
Staying becomes a choice rather than a default, and the role feels like home again.
Step up
The plan for the bigger role, inside your company or elsewhere, without overdelivering to get there.
Step out
Leaving well, now or in five to ten years: your numbers, your family’s security, and the first research into a new role, a business of your own, or an earlier retirement.
What is included
Everything you need to decide, and to set your move in motion.
- 1Your Personal Blueprint reading
- 2Six 1:1 sessions of 60 minutesOnline
- 3Voice note support between sessionsWith a reply within 48 hours on weekdays
- 4Your Turning Point PlanYour decision and the reasoning behind it, your value proposition and elevator pitch, your plan and your first steps
What I will put in writing
By the end of the eight steps you will have:
- A clear view of what has been holding you back
- A decision you are sure of
- A clear value proposition and elevator pitch
- A plan for your path
- The first step already taken
What I cannot promise
The promotion, the new role or the first client, because other people decide those.
What I can promise
That you will walk into those conversations having decided, prepared, and as yourself.
Your path
Decide and begin. Then see it through.
Some clients come to decide. Others arrive having already decided. The work meets you where you are.
Understand
Personal Blueprint
How you are built. Included as step 1 of The Turning Point.
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You are here
The Turning Point
Decide whether to stay, step up or step out, with your head, your body and your numbers. Then take your first steps.
See it through
The Integration Method™
Three months to carry your decision through after the first steps: the promotion, the exit plan, or both.
Learn more ↗
Not sure which one fits? That is what the Turning Point call is for.
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About Danguole
I have sat on both sides of this decision.
In the middle of a billion euro mandate, I realised I had stopped caring. Not about the people, about the work: the deal in front of me and the one after it.
I had been questioning my career for years by then, running the question in the background between meetings and late at night, without ever letting myself look at it properly. Everyone I could have asked had a stake in the answer, and I did not know there was such a thing as a person whose work was to sit with exactly this question.
So I left the way people leave when they have waited too long: suddenly, and without a plan.
Leaving was right for me. Doing it without a plan cost me.
What I needed back then was someone with no stake in the answer, who could help me decide while the question was still a question, and then plan the move well. That is the work I do now.
Clients tell me they value working with me because I know their world from the inside. I spent fourteen years in investment banking across four countries, including leading business development for Scandinavia and advising high net worth clients. I have sat in leadership team meetings, lived through restructurings and cost cutting programmes, and handled corporate politics while still delivering the work at a high standard, and I hold an MBA in International Management. Since leaving banking, I have trained in body psychology, identity level coaching and astrology, become an ICF PCC coach, and held more than 3,000 coaching sessions.
Psychology and coaching find what is driving the decision. Corporate strategy turns it into a move that works in the real world.
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Is this for you?
This is for you if
- You are a Director or VP with a successful career, and you sense a chapter is ending.
- The question of what comes next has been with you for months, and thinking about it alone has not settled it.
- You want to decide deliberately, before circumstances decide for you.
- Your choice needs to take your lifestyle, your family’s security and perhaps your retirement planning into account, even if that is ten years away.
This is not for you if
- You want someone to tell you what to do. The decision stays yours.
- You are looking only for a CV rewrite or a job search run for you.
- You are in an acute crisis that needs therapeutic or medical support first.
What followed for clients
The decision happens inside the programme.
The visible result often arrives in the months that follow, because other people’s calendars set the timing.
Client story
Saying no to London
For a Senior Leader in Finance, the London offer was more than a secondment. Where they grew up, London was the dream, the jewel in the crown of a finance career, the equivalent of Harvard on a CV. Their parents had made hard choices and real sacrifices for opportunities like this one, and turning it down felt like disappointing them. The status and the recognition, almost the applause, held on tightly.
In our work, they looked again at their priorities as they are today, rather than as they were when the dream was first formed. Part of them still wanted the applause. A new part had already been born, and it wanted the life they had built. They turned the secondment down without guilt and negotiated remote work instead.
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It was that permission to acknowledge that what I have is what I want. I really, really want this.
Senior Leader, Finance
Stay, step up, step out: what followed
Senior Leader, Consumer Goods
Said no to three major projects. Their reputation grew.
Senior Leader, Tech
Promoted within six months. €75K total compensation increase. Stopped working weekends.
Senior Leader, Consulting
Left a Big 4 firm for a boutique. €180K package, up from €140K.
Senior Leader, Tech
When AI restructuring hit, identified their value beyond the title. Now building their own consultancy, home for evenings and weekends.
I received a promotion and felt grounded stepping into it. The usual anxiety was still there but it no longer ran the show.
Charlotte O’Connell, Commercial Manager, Bender UK
Founding places
Three founding places, at a founding rate.
Already had your Personal Blueprint reading? Your CHF 599 is credited in full.
Founding places remaining: 3 of 3The Turning Point is new in this form, and I am opening it first to three founding clients. In return for the founding rate, I ask for two things that help me make it even better: a few minutes of feedback after each session, and an honest testimonial at the end in your own words.
If after the first session you feel it is not right for you, the remaining sessions are refunded. The Personal Blueprint reading is yours to keep.
Apply for a founding placeA 30 minute call to see whether The Turning Point is right for you. No pressure, and no obligation.
Questions
What is this worth to you?
Think about what is at stake: the next five to ten years of your career, your income, and your family’s security. You leave with five things you keep: knowing what you want, a decision you are sure of, a clear value proposition and elevator pitch, a plan for your path, and the first step already taken. For one client the right move was worth €40K a year, for another €75K more in total compensation. And what price would you put on the relief of being where you want to be, and the joy of having chosen it yourself?
How long does it take?
Around two months for most clients, faster if your diary allows.
Shouldn’t my company pay for this?
Your company invests in your performance, and it will always decide what is best for the company. This decision is about what is best for you, which is why it is worth making with someone who has no stake in your answer.
I’m not in crisis. Is this really for me?
Yes. Now is a good moment, because you can decide calmly instead of reacting later when a restructuring or exhaustion forces the question.
What if I decide to stay?
Then staying becomes a real choice rather than a default, and the final steps are about making the role feel like yours again. Many of my clients recommit and go all in.
Do I need to believe in astrology?
No. Many clients come in curious or sceptical. The Blueprint shows how you are built, and if astrology is not for you, we leave it out. The decision is always yours.
Your next step
Choose your next move. Then make it.
Begin with a Turning Point call.
A free 30 minute conversation to look at where you are, what is pulling or pushing you, and whether The Turning Point is the right support for you. No pressure, and no obligation.
Before we speak, one question worth sitting with: if you pictured yourself at seventy, looking back at this year, what would you want to have done?
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Danguole Litvinskaite · Executive Coach · Former Investment Banker
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